So Andrew and I have been married for 8 months and it feels like, well, like it's been 8 months. I have to say, we live pretty well together and I think we're still in that newlywed phase. He totally gets my quirkiness with all things needing to be clean and put in their place (which by the way has only intensified since having a baby), and I've come to accept his throw everything, everywhere attitude. Our place in SMALL and when it's messy....well, I never let it get messy :).
Andrew's learned a lot from living with me and is now an expert vacuumer and shower cleaner. If I could only get him to not to throw his clothes everywhere (he blames this particular habit on his college roomate, Josh. Thankfully, Josh recently moved in with his girlfriend, so I'm pretty sure he'll be refined in no time as well ...go Noor!). Obviously, I've learned a lot from living with Andrew too, and despite our lifestyles having to change with the baby (i.e. no more hikes or 30 mile bike rides), I know I can speak for him and say that we are both really happy together.
But marriage is about soooo much more than living well together and making each other happy. Andrew and I are both Christians (but, "Wait!" you say. "You were totally pregnant before you were married". I know, I will elaborate on all of this in another post very soon..I digress), so we believe that there is a biblical purpose to our marriage. To paraphrase an awesome set of sermons on marriage by Tim Keller, our purpose is to move together toward a common horizon of Christ-like people, of our future selves.
When we first started dating, we went to a small group bible study that was listening to Tim Keller's set of sermons on marriage. To keep this post from getting too long, I will just say that my idea of marriage was radically changed. In my new idea of marriage, Jesus is there too. Sort of like, at the top of our pyramid if you will. Anyway, with all of the excitement and life changes that came with Adalyn, Andrew and I realized that besides a prayer before we eat, prayers for friends and family before bed and church on Sundays, God has sort of been absent from our marriage. He is there obviously, but we haven't really invited Him to the party. So, we are going to start to listen to Tim Keller's set on marriage again. It's been 2 years, and now we actually know what marriage is like, and we figure it's a good start. There are 9 of them and they are each about 45 minutes. We'll listen to one each week, maybe together, maybe on our own time, but then have a discussion about it together once a week. Can someone out there hold us accountable? ha.
I'm just so incredibly thankful that he is the man God picked for me.